When someone talks about confidence, what comes to mind? Do you find yourself thinking, “I wish I had the confidence to do this or that”? Maybe you dream of doing something bold—skydiving, swimming the Great Barrier Reef, writing a book, entering a competition, or setting a goal to raise money for charity. The possibilities are endless.
However, for some people, confidence means something entirely different. For them, even the act of getting out of bed in the morning can feel excruciating. While this might not seem like a confidence issue to many, it absolutely is. Their confidence is so low that it takes every ounce of strength just to face the day. They may lie in bed for hours, consumed by self-doubt and negative thoughts, making it even harder to get up and engage with life.
Meanwhile, others jump out of bed effortlessly, following their morning routine, heading to their dream job, chatting with colleagues, and generally loving life. Why is it that one person can start their day with ease, while another feels completely trapped—paralyzed by fear and self-doubt?
Is there a way to overcome this lack of confidence?
The answer is YES! All is not lost. With the right support, you can rebuild your confidence and begin a new journey—a journey of self-discovery. While that phrase may sound cliché, it truly is a transformation from fear to thriving. You can become the person who gets out of bed without hesitation, who enjoys their job, and who sets and achieves goals. The only thing standing in the way is a lack of confidence in yourself.
As Dr. Wayne Dyer famously said, “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.” Take a moment to reflect on this. What does it mean for you? What beliefs do you currently hold about yourself, your abilities, and what you can achieve? If you believe you can’t face the day because you lack confidence, then that belief will shape your reality. But if you choose to believe in your worth, set even the smallest goal—like simply getting out of bed—you are already taking steps toward change.
Our thoughts (cognitions) are incredibly powerful, and the beliefs we hold about ourselves are often the hardest to shift—especially if we’ve been conditioned to think negatively by others. But here’s the most freeing truth: What others think of you is none of your business. People will always have opinions, but that doesn’t make them right or true.
So, are you going to continue letting other people’s perceptions control your life? Or are you ready to take your life back and step into the confident, capable person you are meant to be?
